[Prologue: this was one of those posts that has been sitting in my drafts folder since it was so lame I did not want to publish it; but after seeing the other titles in my drafts folder, it was the only one to go with for now. The other titles: End of Summer Book Review (about a good book I read), Refurbished Cabinet (photos of a cabinet I found and painted) and "Put in the One Where the Drunk Lady Drops It." I may go ahead and post the cabinet pics another day if anyone is interested....]
Anyway, since I have no time to prepare new posts these days, here goes…
My eyes opened wide when I checked out facebook yesterday and then my brow furrowed. Friend A recently friended me on Facebook. She and I are friends with a mutual friend (Friend B). Friend B moved far, far away so we would only catch up when she is the area for summer vacations. I thought it odd that we never heard from her last year – and then yesterday I noticed that Friend A posted it was wonderful getting together with Friend B during her visit (which must have been last week). Yet, she never even bothered to call me.
Me to MB: You’re not gonna believe this but Friend B WAS in town and got together with Friend A. Gosh!
MB: Oh Well
Me: I know that I find conversations with her bore the heck outta me, but still. It would have been nice for her to have called even though I would have had to listen to her.
MB (shakes head): Just listen to yourself!
Friend B really is a sweet person, but she talks very low so I can barely hear what she is saying. “But Carma, your hearing sucks.” I know that! The thing is that MB can’t understand her mumble/whisper either!! We either try to lip read or do the all knowing head nod….Plus she goes on and on and you can’t get a word in edgewise and it is not always the most interesting info, kinda like my blog!!
….and then I had a thought – could it be that she thinks the same of me?
Do you ever think this way?? Dreading the conversation yet being P.O.’d that you were never called in the first place to hear the conversation???
P.S. If you prefer posts with photos, I plan to get a couple more trip photos up one of these days. VC has alerted me that “people do not read posts without photos.”
P.P.S. Still time to enter my canvas print giveaway!
Tell VC that he is wrong. I just read this one
I get told that I mumble sometimes. I prefer to consider myself as soft spoken.
My hearing sucks too ! When people bring this up, I ask them if they make fun of folks in wheel chairs too… “Geesh, your legs really suck!”
Being for-the-most-part anti-social, I don’t have these kinds of problems.
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This reminds me of the Seinfeld episode with the low talker … Jerry ends up wearing some goofy puffy pirate shirt to some fundraiser because he can’t understand a word she says.
And, about the photo posts … I think the people who came up with the rule “You must have photos for people to read your blog” are the same people who insist that you have to have to do giveaways.
When a blog is well written, you don’t need either to get readers.
I come to your blog for the written content. Anything you decide to add after that, is just the cherry on top.
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totally..I have thought that numerous times…less lately though…Margaret from Chaser Straight up said my sentiments the best
..we used to go to a party and wonder who likes us…now we go to parties and wonder who we like…that is more the norm for me lately…uh…yeah 49 and holding…well not holding for tooo long april brings the big 5 0…this made sense to me..how bout you…Bwhahah..?
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I totally understand the FB thing. It does allow you to discover all sorts of things that you probably are better off not knowing. I’d be PO’d too if she didn’t call me either.
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I’m full of all sorts of ‘friend’ angst, so I totally understand what you’re talking about.
I’d love to see your refurbished cabinet.
Pictures are good, but not always necessary.
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I would have been the same way
I laughed while reading this because Josh says I mumble/whisper and it drives him crazy and usually I respond that he’s just hard of hearing (which he is, he can’t hear out of one ear).
as for pictures, I’m not a writer so I need them to cover up that fact! ooh, look at the pretty pictures (like distracting a baby..). hahahahaha
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I agree with SmArtee, it’s more important who we like, and not who likes us, and may be she sensed that there wasn’t this great thing between the two of you.
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uh yea!
VC is so wrong.. i totally read this!
kinda reminded of that episode of sienfeild.. when jerry agreed unintentionally to wear that pirate shirt..
lol
but yes! i would so annoy me too… okay i lie! it wouldn’t just annoy me.. probably i would obsess about it for weeks!
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Facebook seems to foster what I call “shallow friend syndrome”. I started with a strict policy of only “friending” people who were my friends IRL. Then I kept being “friended” by friends of friends that I didn’t know, people who read my Tweets and others. Now I find that my real life friends answer my FB updates with a call or email. And my FB only friends only seem to stay on FB. So clearly Friend A and B are just Facebook friends. Since one mumbles, it’s probably best that she stay there.
Which reminds me: why have you never friended me?
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I’m usually relieved when I don’t get the call!
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Yeah, VC is wrong
I’m glad he is too because I often don’t put pictures on my posts.
You know, sometimes people just don’t gel, and it’s often mutual. I wouldn’t sweat it – you’re obviously happier without her in your life. OOOOOH do I hate people who mumble.
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I can’t deal with mumblers. I’ve always had dodgy hearing. Now I have dodgy middle-aged hearing. I spent Saturday smiling sweetly and nodding at people when in reality I couldn’t hear a ruddy word they were saying. Miss Mumbles probably thinks you’re being aloof because you don’t respond to what she’s saying!
I’ve just started paying more attention to my Facebook a/c but I can see from this how it might end up being an emotional minefield and yes, I agree with those above – Facebook is filled with false friendships just to make up the numbers. (Or is that just me being bitter and twisted).
By the way, where’s the photo? You know I can’t read posts without a pretty picture to reward me at the end.
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I have those kinds of drafts in my drafts folder, too. And I really prefer the written posts, but a photo or two is always welcome. Also have acquaintances whom I love but tend to be a drain on the energy. And to top it off, my daughter swears my hearing is going. Lots in common there! Thanks for visiting my blog today.
Totally has happened to me before. PO’d that I didn’t get the invite, but either wouldn’t have gone or would have complained about it. Can’t win with me sometimes : )
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Although MB thought you were silly, I would have done the same thing. And then my M would have thought I was ridiculous. So you aren’t alone.
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I defiantly think the same…
I may not want to see you, but you better still call if your going to be in town. And then when they don’t and you find out you start to wonder what’s wrong with you that they didn’t even want to call and say hi. It’s a twisted cycle..I say screw it…lol I would call you if I came to your town
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Um, yeah. I have felt that way. Like, I really dont want to come to your party, but you better invite me! That is the norm in my family. We are warped.
Blessings-
Amanda
I totally get it. I would have been the same way. In fact, I have a friend just like that. She’s not a low talker, but she talks about the most boring things and goes into excruciating detail. I heard she had a party and didn’t invite me and I was all, “The hell?” And my husband did not get it because he knows I can’t stand to be around her.
Men, they just don’t get it.
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VC doesn’t know EVERYTHING!!!… Friending all these old high school buds brings back all the high school angst, doesn’t it? I’ve had that happen to me too.
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I’m gonna have to go with Merri Ann. The “low talker” comes to mind…
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The hubs is the WORST mumbler. Drives me bonkers!
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It seems like my hearing is deteriorating along with the rest of my body!
I don’t do pictures with my posts anymore because I have issues with WP.
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Oh man…yes, this totally stinks. I hate when you find stuff like that out on Facebook. FB is a good thing and a bad thing, all rolled into one. I have a cheeseball picture to send you, I just keep forgetting!
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